If there’s one person who deals really well with break ups, that’s definitely not me. I’m the most over-the-top, melodramatic diva you’d ever met, and I don’t respond very well to rejection.
I mean, okay, I’ve dealt with a few break ups that didn’t trouble me at all, but honestly, that hasn’t always been the case. Let me put you in the picture by telling you about the LAMEST period of my life. 
Two years ago, I had the WORST breakup ever; it was so bad, that I wouldn’t stop texting my ex for months after. I would act as if we were still together – with a little extra drama, of course!
Now, picture me, outside a bar, crying and drunk texting my ex. Picture it? Do you like it? I bet you don’t.
It took me a while to realise that some relationships come along with an expiry date and as the ultimate example, I’m giving you some tips on how to not be like me:
- Return your Ex’s stuff.
I know that you definitely can’t live without his favourite hoodie that he left at your house but you have to. That’s basically the first rule of a break up. The first step to get over your ex-boyfriend is to return all his personal stuff that you have in your possession for whatever the reason. This is to make sure that there’s nothing around that reminds you of him. Pack his jackets, shoes, mobile charger or anything that you have kept of him with you and give them back to him. Trust me, it will make it easier for you to go for a very clean sweep, and it will also prevent all kinds of awkward happenings in future, especially when he will ask for his things back.
- Remove him from social media.
I’d say “delete his number”, but it’s almost 2020, so I’ll say “unfollow your Ex”. I know that you want to check up on him, watch his stories on Instagram and know what he is up to, but do you really think that being in touch with your Ex on social networks is a good idea? It doesn’t make any sense to keep him in any of your social sites when you’re no longer together, because If you keep him, it will take ages to get him out of your head: he will either be pissing you off, or making you sad. So, unless you decide to stay friends with him, –which is a really bad idea (been there, done that, doesn’t work) – I’d suggest to remove him from all your social networking profiles.
P.S. Stalking him from your friend’s phone or any other fake profile also counts as cheating to this rule.
- Call your support team.
When you break up, your tribe must be by your side at all times. Don’t pretend that you can get through this alone because it’s just not fair for you. You need friends to help you through any difficult time. Talk to them; call them when you feel hopeless and send them the texts you want to send to your Ex. Write the text out and be as vulnerable, angry or sorry as you want but send it to them. They might make fun of you the morning after, but that’s what friends are for! Go over to their place with a family-size ice cream bucket and cry with them, go out and get drunk with them or burn your Ex’s car with them. Just don’t text him!
There’s a lot of stuff that goes on after a break up. Based on personal experience, I suggest to give yourself some time to process the situation, redefine your life and accept the change in your daily routine. It’s called moving forward towards a totally different direction and it won’t happen by texting your Ex!
…TRUST ME!
xoxo,
Andrea
